Tony Robbins said, "Our beliefs about what we are and what we can be precisely determine what we can be." If you believe you can. You can. If you believe you can't. You can't. It's that simple and that difficult.
We can blame our parents for most of our beliefs concerning success and money. Depending on what they taught you will determine your relationship with both. Then add in all the things you learned over the years, your parents beliefs handed down to you were either upheld or shown to be lacking.
On top of all of that, we are taught that money is evil and most people equate money with their success. Society (Think the reality programs) which equate money, power and plenty of toys as being successful. But it that what we should be striving for in our lives? Is the person who dies with the most toys the winner in today's world?
Believing you can has everything to do with success. First of all, you need to change your thoughts about success. Having the most toys or the biggest diamond isn't a measurement of success, only the ability to spend in excess. The goal is to do the best you can with what you have to do what you dream of doing.
That means being the best you can be at whatever you are doing. Believe you are going to take that dream trip, have that dream house while working in small steps to get there. Life is all about the journey, not about where you end up. Killing yourself to keep up with the Jones's is a never ending thing which gets you nowhere but in a spending cycle which never ends. Set a goal which means something. What is your dream? Mine was to travel. I actually stood in a place like the person on the mountain. I was over 66 but I climbed 1500 feet up the mountain, saw the two falls and found my way back. This after a doctor told me I was disabled and couldn't do what I did. I'ts all about believing you can and doing it. (Disability is 90% mental, 10% physical in most cases. Arthritis, three back surgeries, degenerative disc disease with four herniated cervical discs, a bad hip and knee and breathing issues hasn't stopped me.)
As Henry Ford said, "Whether you believe you can, or you believe you can't, you are correct." If you want to climb that mountain, then start with the hill behind your house. Strengthen yourself and learn how to rock climb on small cliffs. work your way up to a beginner mountain. Try a harder one, then an harder one after that. Eventually you can climb that mountain. It's the small increments of success, believing you will climb that mountain which gets you there.
No mountain climber ever started off on Mt. Everest for their first climb. They did many smaller ones to build up to it. Success is as much preparation as belief.
If you don't believe in yourself, you can't accomplish anything. You will find excuses. I can't (fill in the blank here) because (fill in the blank). Can't is word you need to take out of your vocabulary. Remember the book "The Little Train That Could"? He started off thinking he couldn't make the hill. It was all negatives to the point where he didn't even what to try. Then he changed, repeating, "I think I can," all the way up the hill. You have to believe you can. It's the reason for affirmations to get to you to believe you can. You start out with a step and repeat until you get to where you want to be.
Even when you succeed, you might sabotage that success because you don't believe you deserve it. Yeah, many people do that repeatedly. Instead of thinking of what you are going to get for you, turn it around and think of what you can do for others with your excess from your success. If you plan for good, good comes to you. What you put out in thoughts, comes back to you ten fold. It's been proven over and over again. Your beliefs and thoughts affect not only those around you, they multiply for you. So where are your thoughts at today? Are they negative or positive? The minute you put out there a 'not', it's negative.
If you believe "I won't over eat today," you probably will. It had a not in there. A negative. Change it to how you will eat healthy today. If you say "I hope I have a good day today," that isn't a positive thought as you are saying "I may not have a good day". Change it. It's a great day to do (Fill in the blank).
Your beliefs are like your thoughts. Keep them positive. Work in little steps and you can achieve all you want. What will stop you is saying, "Oh, I'll start tomorrow." Tomorrow never gets here, it's always one day away. Do it today. Start small and keep putting one foot before the next and you'll have and incredible journey for your life.
B.A Mealer is an author and a traveler. This is a person who refuses to grow up and get old.
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